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Free read ê Falling Leaves The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter ´ eBook, PDF or Kindle ePUB Ï [Reading] ➶ Falling Leaves The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese Daughter Author Adeline Yen Mah – Insolpro.co.uk Born in 1937 in a port city a thousand miles north oBorn in in a port city The Memoir Epub #219 a thousand miles north of Shanghai Adeline Yen Mah was the youngest child of an affluent Chinese family who enjoyed rare privileges during a time of political and cultural upheaval But wealth and position could not shield Adeline from a childhood of appalling emotional abuse at the hands of a cruel and manipul. The book was published in the height of the Chinese mania in America It was the time when the likes of Joy Luck Club and Wild Swan were bestsellers I thought it was another 'me too' and never got to read it until now This is the summary of what I thinkThe good her style of peppering the story with chinese proverbs characters pronunciation translation; interesting peek of Shanghai in its glory straight from the person who lived that kind of life; and engaging story tellingThe bad a tad too whiny and self pitying She presents the typical David vs Goliath battle a tad too shallow and tedious Miseries are repeated over and over again with little lesson learned a tad too simplistic and biased She and everyone else on her side are angelic The rest are evilTo me there was only ONE entertaining moment in this book Her eldest brother and apparent heir Gregory wrote a 6 pages letter to their father asking his permission to become a bridge player He promptly send a telegram containing this very simple advice why don't you become a pimp insteadI don't agree with the practice of mapping out a child's life and to certain cultures this may even provoke anger but knowing the Chinese background this is hilarious It is so typical of Chinese parents to disapprove such flamboyant career and the way the father put a stop to it is also so typical of the Chinese I just have to laughDespite her repeated denial not only here but also in her other book A Thousand Pieces of Gold I can't help but feeling that this particular book is her little revenge I also doubt that she sincerely not sore for not getting the huge inheritance I mean she mentions it so many times in her book on the excuse that inheritance is her only way of knowing for sure that her parents approve of her but we don't see her youngest sister Susan who was disowned for bravely walking out the door in rebellion against her birth mother's abuse whining about exclusion from the inheritance No wonder her brother James doesn't speak to her any By writing this book she again defies her father who said 家醜不可外揚 Family ugliness should never be aired in publicInstead of thinking how brave she was I get a feeling that she was a spoiled little girl She described how she refused to eat fatty meat at all cost when fatty meat was considered as a source of nourishment for children at that time and to learn the value of money by asking for the tram fareConclusion fun read but her other books A Thousand Pieces of God is a better and original memoir and book However if you can't stand another whine from another Cinderella skip it

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Ative Eurasian stepmother Determined to survive through her enduring faith in family unity Adeline struggled for independence as she moved from Falling Leaves PDF Hong Kong to England and eventually to the United States to become a physician and writerA compelling painful and ultimately triumphant story of a girl's journey into adulthood Adeline's story. I really didn't like this book About 13 of the way through I thought to myself Why do I care about this person I even asked out loud a couple of nights later why I was reading the book To which my husband replied Then don't read it But not one to stop a book half way through I continued on I hoped that eventually I would come to understand why I should care about the author At the end though I still didn't Sure she had a crap childhood For that I give her pity Her step mother didn't like her But her stepmother didn't like any of the kids Plus it wasn't like she was getting thrown in a closet Sure she was sent away to boarding schoolbut at least she got an education In the end she was able to make a success out of her life What really got me is that she couldn't believe her stepmother had left her out of the will Come on who didn't see that coming Her stepmother was evil I don't know why the author kept expecting that to change I wanted to scream Grow up and get over it Your childhood sucked your step mother was evil your brothers and sisters were back stabbers I felt that this book was full of self pity which she's never overcome Waaaaaah Waaaaaaaah Waaaaaah

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Falling Leaves The Memoir of an Unwanted Chinese DaughterIs a testament to the most basic of human needs acceptance love and understanding With a powerful voice that speaks of the harsh realities of growing up female in a family and society that kept girls in emotional chains Falling Leaves is a work of heartfelt intimacy and a rare authentic Leaves The Memoir PDFEPUB #236 portrait of twentieth century China. In English we say An apple falls close to the tree meaning you are like your family In Shanghai they say The leaves fall close to the roots meaning you always go back to family to your roots like it or notCovering a sweeping range of China's immediate past from the 1930s to today this book is partly fascinating history of a period of enormous upheaval and change partly telenovela of the Falcon Crest sort as it tells the story of a wealthy family and the machinations of the wicked stepmother to control everything from economic resources to her children's behaviourI've read a lot of scathing reviews of this book most of which attack the author the unwanted fifth daughter for whining and being a victim This is perhaps an understandable response on the part of a reader who has never been the scapegoat of a closed dysfunctional family dynamic For those of us who have been in that particular hotseat even without the Asian family background it's a little different A rejected child often will do anything for a bit of approval on the part of the adults in her life I've seen this even in single child families in which the child is given all the advantages of special classes and opportunities to develop their talents travel with parents etc And how many memoirs of children of the wealthy are there that reveal the ugliness under the privilege Considering that the author was programmed from Day 1 to believe that she had cost her father's beloved first wife her life by just being born and therefore deserved nothing it's suprising she made anything of herself If Yen Mah never got the counselling and guidance she needed to restore her sense of self worth it's not surprising that she never had the strength to make a final break with her family A truly dysfunctional family does operate like a soap opera in many ways; I grew up in one as another last child who should have been a boy and wasn't though we were working class and I was fortunate enough to find the tools and strength to break away I never outgrew my dream of a happy united family though by now I know it's a dream As Yen Mah's brother James remarks in the narrative Your problem is that you're always transferring your own feelings and reasonings to others You wanted to believe we all shared your dream of a united family In fact no one cared except for you I hear that For that very reason I have never written about my own experiences though some have encouraged me to It wasn't pleasant to live it why put it out there and spread the misery Besides catharsis can often spill over into payback And at some point your abusers have to become unimportant in your life; otherwise they just keep winning even after they're dead At some point they've got to stop controlling the inside of your headI did find the part where the author finds comfort and release from the burden in a folk tale a bit wish fulfillment but she probably wanted to end on a positive note and a lesson