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Stuck in the Middle With You kindle ë 304 pages Ö insolpro Á ➺ [Download] ➶ Stuck in the Middle With You By Jennifer Finney Boylan ➻ – New York Times bestseller and acclaimed author Jennifer Finney Boylan returns with a remarkable memoir about gender and parenting incluYlan came out as transgender and as Jenny transitioned from a man to a woman and from a father to a mother her family faced uniue challenges and uestions In this thoughtful tear jerking hilarious memoir Jenny asks what it means to be a father or a mother and to what extent gender shades our experiences as parents It is my hope she writes that having a father who became a woman in turn helped my sons become better menThrough both her own story and incredibly insightful interviews with others includin In return for my honest review I received this book free from Librarything Early Reviewers This did not affect my reviewSothis was disappointing I loved Boylan's first memoirShe's Not There A Life in Two Genders This book started out with promise but I had a number of issues with it in the end Boylan actually writes very little about parenting or family Her kids are exuisitely well adjusted and high achieving Neither she nor her wife are particularly troubled by the fact that they haven't had sex since the transition and will never have sex again because who needs sex when there is love? Yeah right Boylan tells a few VERY select stories and augments this very skimpy memoir with interviews with well known literary folks These interviews are ostensibly sometimes actually centered on parenting and on being parented Other than learning that Edward Albee a playwright whose work I have loved was an asshat these interviews taught me nothing The interviews did not broaden or inform my view of parenting They were frankly really bad Boylan has done some reporting so I would have expected her to be a better interviewer I think when friends interview friends it doesn't work Anyone who has read Interview Magazine knows this Whatever the reason these interviews are awfulFocusing on the fact the interviews were not done well raises the uestion of whether the interviews belong in this book I say they do not This book holds itself out as a memoir of parenting as a trans woman and it is not The only material which really covers this are a few stories about how Jenny is worried that her transition will create issues Of course it is all in her head and her children are really truly 100% unaffected by her decision to transition That may be how she chooses to see it but kids are judged by their peers all the time That judgment includes peers' views of parents I am not saying in any way that her kids are going to be screwed up by her transition I am not even saying they might not grow to be better men because of it I am just saying she is claiming that the transition did not affect her sons in any way and I am not buying what she is selling A honest discussion would have been both interesting and educational and empowering for parents raising their children in non traditional environmentsIn the end this book came off as lazy and dishonest and that is a shame Boylan is a great writer and she has life experience which could have been turned into a really good book Oh well 2 kids in elite colleges costs I wish the family well they seem like nice people

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G Richard Russo Edward Albee Ann Beattie Augusten Burroughs Susan Minot Trey Ellis Timothy Kreider and Jenny examines relationships with fathers and mothers people's memories of the children they were and the parents they became and the many different ways a family can be Followed by an Afterword by Anna uindlen that includes Jenny and her wife discussing the challenges they've faced and the love they share Stuck in the Middle with You is a brilliant meditation on raising – and on being – a chil This book is like a uilt woven from many different pieces I was surprised to find especially pleasurable the interludes of interviews with various literary figures and other people in Jenny's life It felt like I was sitting in the room with them as they talked about family gender literature lifeAnd then there's the other related focus of the book Jenny's relationship with her kids and spouse before and after her gender reassignment These parts are written with such tenderness vulnerability and humor hallmarks of Jenny's other book I read She's Not ThereAnother pleasure of this book for me as a writer is the fun way she weaves literary references into the book and how I got to sit in on conversations between her and other writers such as Agustin Burroughs Edward Albee and Anne BeattieThere are a lot of moving parts to this book and I enjoyed the way the various aspects themes emerged It reminded me there are as many ways to write a book as there are writers and as many ways to live as there are people

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Stuck in the Middle With YouNew York Times bestseller and acclaimed author Jennifer Finney Boylan returns with a remarkable memoir about gender and parenting including incredible interviews discussing gender how families are shaped and the difficulties and wonders of being humanA father for ten years a mother for eight and for a time in between neither or both the parental version of the schnoodle or the cockapoo Jennifer Finney Boylan has seen parenthood from both sides of the gender divide When her two children were young Bo I read Jennifer Finney Boylan's memoir She's Not There A Life in Two Genders years ago and was uite moved by it I was excited to receive an advance copy of her new memoir Stuck in the Middle with You A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders which releases later this monthBoylan's voice is kind open hearted and never judgmental There is a touching example of this right away in the memoir's first several pages Boylan is not a radical militant activist; she's not trying to win our approval She is simply herself No matter how different the reader may feel heshe is from the author it uickly becomes apparent that we and our families are all nontraditional in our own way; but we have so much in commonBoylan has a way of pinpointing just how profound some moments in a parent's life are She speaks of parenting in such an honest open way She is brave enough to say things I wish other parents would admit often I highlighted so many sentences that were an encouragement to me as a momThis memoir is a thoughtful exploration of the way gender roles affect the way we view ourselves as parents and the way we view our own parents What ualities make a woman a mother? A man a father? What criteria should we use to define ourselves and where should that come from? Although Boylan's transition from man to woman may have sparked these uestions I found it worthwhile to allow myself to challenge common attitudes and responses Often the things people typically use to define womanhood for example alienate large groups of women myself included Boylan has an incredibly balanced view fair to all and shows how gender is a much complex topic than many have consideredI loved the layout of the book Boylan breaks up her own narration with time outs that made me chuckle featuring interviews with others about their own families She didn't need to do this Her writing feels very fresh and would have been just as much a joy to read straight through But it worked and it was nice to have that change of pace periodically The people she interviewed Augusten Burroughs Richard Russo and Ann Beattie to name only a few are incredibly varied in their experiences but these conversations also gradually and gently exposed common threads I also enjoyed the afterword Anna uindlen's interview with Jenny and her wife Deedie; it made me want to reread She's Not ThereBoylan's reflections on parenting are frank and deeply perceptive I laughed and I cried Stuck in the Middle with You is a powerful book that encourages us to be true to ourselves and connect with each other not through labels but as fellow human beings I received a copy of this book from the publisher via Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review I did not receive any other compensation for this review